清明已至，在这特殊的日子里我们不禁想起离去的亲人、挚友，那些撕心裂肺的日子和我们心中深深的伤痛。离去的将永远离去，更要关爱的则是我们自己，我们自己的内心世界与亲人的情感联系。回忆在那段时间里，我们内心的镜像是什么样的？当痛失至亲近友的时候，那颗痛苦、颤抖的心，得到过安抚和帮助吗？是否顺利地度过了悲哀，正视了痛苦，找到生命的勇气与新的生活目标？

       Qingming Festival has come, and on this special day we can't help but think of our loved ones and friends who have passed away,which was the days that tore our hearts apart left  the deep pain in our hearts.The departed will be gone forever. What needs to be cared for ourselves , our own inner world and the emotional connection with our loved ones.What was the mirror image of our mind during that time?When the loss of a close friend, the pain, trembling heart, does get comfort and help? Do we  successfully go through the sorrow, faced up to the pain, to find the courage of life and new life goals?

失去亲人后的反应

         在听到噩耗后，一般人都陷于极度的痛苦之中，严重者情感麻木或昏厥，也可能会出现呼吸困难或窒息感，痛不欲生或呼天喊地的哭叫，反映出失去亲人后处于极度的激动状态。急性反应之后，有些人会出现焦虑和抑郁，自责自己对死者生前关心不够，感到愧疚或有罪，脑子里常浮现死者的形象或出现幻觉，难以维持平静的心态，甚至不能料理自己的日常生活，并伴有疲乏、失眠、食欲降低和其他胃肠道症状。严重抑郁者可产生自杀的企图或行为。随着时间的推移，大约6个月后，人们会渐渐地平静下来，大多数的人都能接受事实，尽管悲伤的情绪还是会浮现在脑海里，尤其是在死者逝世周年纪念日。而有些人则始终不愿意接受丧失亲人的事实，他们会经历很长时间的情感麻木和冷漠，渴望全身心投入工作或其他活动中，以使自己分心而不去想念死者。如果这种悲伤、抑郁的情绪持续超过了6个月，就属于不正常的情绪反应：例如明显的激动或迟钝性抑郁，有强烈的内疚和自责，难以接受现实，一直幻想死者还活着，自杀企图持续存在，存在幻觉、妄想、情感淡漠、惊恐发作，或活动过多、行为草率、不负责任等等。

 Reaction to losing a loved one  

       After hearing the tragic news, most people are in extreme pain. Emotional numbness or fainting can be severe. There may also be difficulty breathing or suffocation, and cries of pain or exclamations reflected the extreme excitement after the loss of a loved one.After acute reaction, some people can appear some anxiety and depression, blame themselves do not pay enough attention to the deceased, feel guilty,  often emerge the image of the dead or hallucinations, difficult to maintain calm state of mind, even can't arrange their daily life, accompanied by fatigue, insomnia, reduce appetite and other gastrointestinal symptoms.Suicidal attempts or behaviors may occur in severely depressed people.As time goes on, after about six months, people will gradually calm down and most people can accept the fact, although sad emotions will still come to mind, especially on the anniversary of the death.Others, however, remain unwilling to accept the bereavement and may experience a long period of emotional numbness and apathy, eager to immerse themselves in work or other activities in order to distract themselves from thinking about the deceased.If this kind of sad, depressed mood lasts for more than 6 months,it is not normal emotional responses: obviously excited or slow depression, for example, have a strong sense of guilt and remorse, feel difficult to accept the reality and fantasy of the dead alive, suicide attempts persist, hallucinations, delusions, emotional indifference, panic attacks, or excessive activity, behavior, hasty, irresponsible, and so on.

 失去亲人后应得到的支持

 在这清心明志的日子里，去我们亲人长眠的地方看看吧，在那里表达我们的哀思，诉说我们的想念，安抚我们的心灵，平抚我们的心绪，才能明确新的生活目标，走向新生活。

The support you deserve after losing a loved one